Entrepreneurs aren’t the easiest to love. I can vouch for this as I am fully willing to admit that I can certainly be a tough one to snuggle up next to. I tend to get caught up in my head, I’m easily overly focused on a fabulous new idea, or I’m probably worrying about whether I’m making any impact.
Being in a relationship with someone who is dedicated to building their dream has definite challenges. But there are also great rewards that come with loving someone who is so driven and passionate.
Those of us who have signed up for the Entrepreneur Club are wired just a bit differently. Work is so much more than a job because it is truly an extension of who we literally are. Work isn’t really even work… it’s more about passion, purpose, impact and creativity.
If you’re one of the lucky ones to have your heart swooped up by the charm and ambition of an entrepreneur here’s a quick guide to what you need to know to love them the best you can.
These 5 tips are good to the last drop! Be sure to keep reading to the end.
As a relationship expert and guru, I talk a lot about making your partner, hubby and wifey your #1 in your life. And I absolutely hold true to this being an essential value! HOWEVER… what being #1 means, needs some clarification. When you love an entrepreneur, you need to be solid and confident in where you stand in their hearts. Because there will be moments when they need to dedicate their time and their energy to their vision. It may be rolling out a new product or developing a new service, but they will need periods of time to devote to these projects. The more grounded you are the easier these moments apart will be. Be confident in your relationship and ask directly if you are needing more QT (quality time).
Support the Vision
Entrepreneurs are visionaries. Ideas fuel us and we are easily energized about the next big thing. As we talk about our ideas and how we want our lives to evolve, be careful not to criticize. Being a partner to an entrepreneur doesn’t mean you’re also their business coach or their business advisor. Your role is to encourage and support. Ask first before you offer feedback, criticism or a suggestion. And do your best to roll with their creative and often confusing process. Try and embrace the fact that the one you love is far from dull and boring!
Passion in the Heart
Entrepreneurs are a passionate breed. Along with all those ideas and visions comes the passion and excitement to make these ideas a reality. We put blood sweat and tears into our businesses because most of the time we love it. Dale Partridge, founder of Start Up Camp, emphasizes how passion is ‘the willingness to suffer for something you love.’ We’re not only passionate about business but entrepreneurs are passionate about life in general. Passion also applies to who we who we give our hearts to. Our arguments might get a little heated, as does our excitement and our love. Understand this passion is our motivation for greatness.
Because our passion comes with the willingness to suffer for what we love, entrepreneurs have a tendency to be pretty dang hard on ourselves. Personally, I wish this wasn’t as true as it is. But when what you dedicate so much of yourself to, is an extension of yourself, things easily sink a little deeper. The good times are freaking fantastic! The tough times can get real down and dirty. Loving an entrepreneur is a struggle in these moments… I know. But this is when we need you most. We need you, our #1, to be the soft landing. To be the consistent place where we can feel out the suffering because having your support helps us to get up and keep going.
We don’t have a 9-5 schedule and expecting this will easily lead you straight for disappointment. There are times when we need to put our head down and focus on what we’re creating. Work to develop shared expectations of when you both can connect. Expectations and boundaries around when work is fully put aside is an absolute necessity. You both need time together that is protected. And if there’s an important event or a time you really need your partner, be direct and specific. Rather than being critical about the hours they put into their work, create a shared game plan for what you both need so you know what to expect.
Loving an entrepreneur isn’t for everyone. And you need to determine if you’re up for it. Let me also be clear that I am in no way, shape, or form excusing the entrepreneur from their bad love habits. I am not encouraging them to be careless with their passion or to create unlimited work hours. Entrepreneurs also need to hold up their end of the relationship bargain.
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Oh and could you do me favor? Please share this with all those ambitious entrepreneurs + their partners.