What is referred to as the single-life and the single-hood is extremely elusive! And frankly, I find that it is often over rated and too easily celebrated.
Being single means, you are not currently in a committed relationship. It also means, you aren’t actively dating and if you are dating, you haven’t been dating to find or attract a lasting relationship.
You’re probably either shut off to relationships or prowling for something very casual and undefined.
You like relationships to be kept undefined because you may think commitment is limiting, if not terrifying. I’m Ok with you being scared. Just know it and own it. I can help with your fear. I can even help you move past and through your fear. But I can’t help if you don’t recognize how real your fear is.
Maybe your fear says, “You’ll never really find anyone. So, don’t risk trying.” The fear also tells you, “If you open up and let someone get close, you’ll only end up hurt.”
Being single also commonly means you overly rely on self-sufficiency and your own independence. You may be quick to label others as needy, dependent, and perhaps even weak because they desire closeness. A closeness you may find uncomfortable. So, you nudge or even push away those who you date or have been committed to previously.
While it can be an incredible moment in your life, being single needs to be just that. A moment. A season. A period where you can delve into self-discovery and enjoy its unique freedom. But when this carries on past its expiration date, it can easily become toxic. It can impair your ability and your willingness to form lasting relationships.
Just remember, you aren’t made to be alone. You aren’t even wired to be as independent as your probably think you need to be. You are 100% wired for lasting committed relationships!
Love is the Greatest Adventure!
Leave me a comment and tell what resonates here. What’s the toughest part of being single?