When you’re secure and feeling connected in your marriage, you don’t think twice. There’s a solidness to your relationship that feels like it could overcome any challenge or rough patch.
But when you feel the disconnection creep in, that solid foundation starts to show cracks and it might even begin to crumble…
You suddenly find yourself standing on shaky ground.
You begin to question and you begin to fear the answers to your questions. It’s in this moment you start to wonder, “Are you REALLY there? Or will you walk away? Will you leave me alone with my fear?”
There’s a part in all of us that needs to know we are loved and supported unconditionally. To know we will have a soft place to land when we’re struggling. And often we want this soft place to be in the arms of the one we love most.
We are deeply wired for this solid sense of connection.
And yet, we so often resort to covering this need with masks of independence and protection. We tell the world and those we love most, “I’m fine. I don’t need anyone. I just need to rely on myself.” And we negate the reassurance our hearts and souls crave.
Allow yourself to need and rely upon your spouse. Share together the powerful experience of emotional dependence and the strength it will provide to your marriage.
Because when you ask, “Are you there for me?” All you need is a consistent and resounding YES!